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rosaenaluin 65F
9916 posts
5/24/2018 6:29 am
24/7 in the real world?


What does it mean, to be in a 24/7 RELATION,?

not some sex porn fantasy play contact-
No!

in a real life, every day hassle life, 24/7 RELATION?

So, hé the dominant person has a job or a bissnizz he has to take care of...

[ She, the submissive or slave = this does NOT mean the same.....]

she has a job, or goes to the Uni, or has little childeren to take care of, or her elderly parents, or all the above....
On a every day, very down to earth life....

AND, she agreed to be his slave, to follow his orders, his will, in all the things they NEGOTIATED about.

I am not talking micro management, that is a FETISH, play thing,
Or something for a very, very insecure person. NOT a dominant....

She agreed to let him decide her clothing, also her work out fit,
so, she will wear what he wants, even when he is not in the same room, she will wear what she knows he likes.
This gives her a feeling of belonging, a very deep feeling of his love for her, his attention for her..

Again: this is not some porn horny fantasy she has to do, because that other person gets off on it....

Her Dominant wants her to feel safe, comfortable, presentabel in her outfit, on her job.

If they negotiated what to eat, when to eat, that is also what she agreed on to do, his way.
If that means she will never again eat Brussels Sprouts, because he cant stand the smell and tast of it
So be it.

It is not about 24/7 with your Willy out your pants, and she on her knees, 24/7 sucking your Dick.
Thát is the porn fantasy movie bull shit..
Nice to jurk off on, maybe? but for real??

In a 24/7 relation, the bills need to get paid, the garbage need to put out on the street, the laundery must be done, ironing, the rent to pay, cleaning, friends to visit, family, holliday need to be planned... the dog/cat, goldfish needs to go to the vet.

All the things any grown up knows, he or she has to do, fullfill otherwise it will become a real problem.

The thing different is that she is doing all those things, the way Her Dominant wants it to be done.
You could say, she is doing all this, under his law, his will.
IF he bothers to take care of such things.

maybe this dominant wants his submissive to take care of their financial bissnizz?
Or he wants her to take care of the maintenance of the car...? Or the maintenance of the house.

the point is, they agree to al this, they talked about all this, about what is really really important in their dynamic, in their foundation of their relation.

No sex, No anal training, no skull f*cking, Nothing of all that.

That is a part of the negotiation.
If she needs a dominant with a sadistic tendency, that is a very important part in the negotiation.
If he needs a babygirl 24/7 TAT dynamic, it is very important that he choices wisely...

It is about the need, want to obey him, to be under his guidance, in all parts of their relation.

To me, that also means, he has to be a left wing political orientated person, a bit of an anarchistic soul....
He also has to be of have some healthy food interest, it is all about AWARENESS.

someone who smokes and eat all kind of junk food...? Is obese? Drinks more alcohol then is good for him?
Wont be a match for me.

Also, he needs to be able to think outside his comfortzone,/box, IQ & EQ, sense of humor matching mine....
share the same ethical and moral value.

it is THEIR relation, totally focessed and build around the whole BDSM power transfer dynamic. Total Authority Transfer.
She choices to submit to him, every day again.

Physcial it is totally impossible to "play the dominant/sub act" the whole F*cking day!
Maybe some women can get away with that, Multi orgasmic as we can be...

but lets be fair, most men cant get off more then 1 time a day....
All that fantasy roleplay is very, very tiresome....

Who is going to work? Who is going to pay for the bills?
Wh is going to do the washing, the cooking, the day to day responsibilities....?
Who is going to work to get those bill paid?

The Power/AUTHORITY transfer, from her to him, is the base of the whole relation.
Out of her free will.
The mutual understanding, about what BDSM means to them, in their relation.

THAT IS THE CORE of a 24/7 dynamic.

That IS a 24/7 Living together, dynamic, out of their free will, free choice. because they both crave that in their life.
Authority transfer.
It is exactly what those 2 (or more) people decided to have in their relation.

It is about the AUTHORITY, not some kinky horny porn fantasy role play...

When you are married, you are still married when you are not in the same room, when you visit your friends, work, do the groceries, cook, wash, visit family.....

That counts also for a 24/7.
away or together? You are always in that 24/7.
You are always his slave, behave according to his rules.

Sure, there will be some physical actions, thát is also a part of the whole Dynamic, the whole being compatible.

rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/24/2018 6:35 am


aHedonist 51M
7510 posts
5/24/2018 8:18 am

Yes.
Exactly.
Couldn't agree more.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/25/2018 1:10 pm

Taximan, thank you!


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/25/2018 1:11 pm

aHedonist,

I am glad you agree.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/25/2018 1:14 pm

sadie_123abc,

Thank you, that is so sweet,

I always see this as hard work, negotiation about what you think is really, really important for you.
And, also i think it is or should be an ongoing communication flow.... between the two.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/25/2018 1:17 pm

Lilli,
you are absolutely right! Xx
I know a few who live this way.

Most are not capeble to do more then just the play act 'performance'.... amp;,
so terrible boring & empty.



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