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We are a couple living together in a FLR. She is a very loving strong person that loves control of her man.

What she wants me to have a Prince Albert?
Posted:Jan 16, 2017 9:19 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2017 4:52 am
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I have not wanted to go here at all but now Mistress is thinking hard about getting a Prince Albert installed. I have never been around a man that has one and would like to know more from some one that has one. This has come about because of me cheating a chastity device and the piercing would stop that. There is just something about putting a steel ring in the end of her cock.
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Why a new chastity device is needed after a year?
Posted:Jan 10, 2017 8:57 pm
Last Updated:Jan 12, 2017 1:51 pm
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I have not talked about why I ordered a new chastity device after a year of wearing a Holy Trainer V2 (Pictured in profile). A month ago, I got to the point of feeling guilty about being able to cheat my chastity device. I have wanted an all steel device for some time for a couple of reasons. I started to talk to Mistress about ordering a new one and of course she had to know why. The first thing I talked about was the hassle of keeping the Holy Trainer clean. It was not long before we had the discussion about security. Once she learned that I could slip my cock out the back of the one I wear now, she was not happy to say the least.

It is that level of trust for her, really love to edge myself, hell just to get a hard on. I have not masturbated now for over a year. The rule was not to touch my cock at all.
When we started this life style she was generous about letting me out for sex and having an orgasm. As time went on she became strict about the time I was locked up only to find out I was getting out to edge.
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What a year it has been for me. I must say I live in heaven.
Posted:Jan 3, 2017 5:17 pm
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2017 8:35 pm
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It was a year ago, my Mistress began the use of chastity to change a behavior in me. I loved to masturbate to the point I was not pleasing her in bed. The change took place a long with a new-found relationship between us. It was not long before she found her power over me was delicious. Within the first month she found that orgasm denial effected the way I not only treated her, but my ability to perform sexually. The first few months she was letting me orgasm twice a month, but she would use me once a week and her appetite for sex increased.

By the time, we lived this life style six months, she took more control. She found that corporal punishment all so influenced my overall attitude. Once she had the tools to change behavior, now she found the need to train me, to shape me in to the man she wanted to be with.

It is true the more you live life the better life is. My goal was to be the lover, mate she dreamed of wanting in her life. Now she does use the control to adjust what her needs are at the time. She learned the power of using the technique of ruining my orgasms. This gives her the satisfaction of me climaxing in her, yet I do not get enjoyment from the orgasm. This is a form of denial she really likes. The level of need for sex remains very high all the time. It reinforces all the aspects of orgasm denial. No longer am I totally satisfied from having sex up tell she wants me to. Now she has one more tool to use keeping my attitude and behavior in check.

Now I look forward to having intercourse. I make sure not to misbehave in hopes just to get out of chastity. I really miss having an erection and it has replaced need for an orgasm. Not that I do not want to orgasm I do. I now do all I can to make every day special, and those days that are special I might get to have a full orgasm. The part of this that makes it work is when she tells me if I do A then I get B. She told me on special occasions I will be allowed ecstasy, and now it is amazing when she lets me enjoy sex to the fullest. As it is now I am allowed a ruined orgasm once in six weeks. I will be allowed a full orgasm a few times a year.
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Do all Female Led Relationships follow the same progression?
Posted:Oct 13, 2016 7:50 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2017 4:52 am
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This is not the first time I have been in this type of relationship. I can see after getting to know more people living in a form of BDSM they all seem to be different (but we all are). When two people change the style of a bond between them each one has a different idea what they want. It never seems long before there is compromise but all relationships do. It is a widely held option the dominate would shape the relationship. One thing that did happen was we moved from a very loving caring relationship to her taking control of my man hood. At first that was all she wanted to do, was control my relief from sexual activity.
I of course wanted her to be very dominate. In the beginning we set rules to be followed and what would happen if I did not. So from the beginning it would be more of what I wanted than her. What happened was she enjoyed the new found benefits of the effect of chastity. The longer I went without the more control she had. Along with a little corporal punishment she changed my behavior.
As our sex life changed there were things she liked a lot and things she is missing. As our relationship grows there are things she will never change and things she wants. One thing she will never do is give up control. The use of chastity will be kept in place. The level of my submission will be in her control. She now is about ready improve her sex life with a second submissive for sex. I have wanted her to consider a second man in her life if nothing else but for sexual pleaser. One thing is for sure to keep my behavior and attitude in check orgasm denial works very well with me. Now she can have the best of both worlds.
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A change for the better or at least she is enjoying it.
Posted:Oct 4, 2016 7:26 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2017 4:52 am
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As most of you that follow me know Mistress has let me get relief just about twice a month for first 8 months we lived this life style. I for some reason started to reflect on how I felt living this life style. The very first thing I realized was orgasm denial works very well but why. It is the fact I want sexual relief all the time. When she lets me have relief the next few days my desirer diminishes and all that goes with that. If the fact is my needs control behavior and attitude, then why would she ever let me have relief? One thing that I learned is just because I do orgasm the relief is short lived. Most of the time it is the very next morning I want sex all the more.
My Mistress just over a month ago decided to not let me have any more enjoyment from sexual activity. So when she has intercourse she takes actions to insure I do not enjoy it nor orgasm. After a month went by she felt a reward would give me incentive to continue good behavior. Just like always she let me out of chastity, sprayed my cock with a numbing agent. We went to bed and just like all the other times the foreplay started. Once it got to the part she was enjoying intercourse she asked if I could feel anything at all. Of course I cannot being numb in fact I cannot tell if I am in her and have to check that I am. She then let me orgasm and I must say I had to work at it. I could feel the semen leave my balls, so had the feeling I did. The first thing I noticed was my semen coming out of her. Of course she by this time was completely satisfied and the secession was over. After she locked me back up she asked if I really enjoyed my orgasm. What orgasm was all I was thinking and told her no I did not get any relief. All she had to say was well maybe next time you will get to.
Now only a few days later she will in a very loving way tell me it was too bad I didn’t enjoy my orgasm but if I just behave keep a good attitude I might next time (then chuckles).
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Part Three of “Inside of a Female Led Relationship.”
Posted:Sep 12, 2016 4:22 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2017 4:52 am
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There is an aspect to the male’s sexual needs that he will have to deal with. I have never read anything about this factor yet it is a part of this you need to know. If a chastity device is used on the male for long periods of time to stop him from orgasm or for that matter sexual relief, then here is what happens. You begin to want or need some sexual interaction all the more. Now the only form of interaction is when she teases you or has you play with her. Because of the heighten sex drive from denial you want interaction all the time. It takes a lot of time by her to work with you at this new level of expectation. If your partner doesn’t have the time or not willing to give you that extra time you want, then frustration sets in. I myself would act out or break a rule to get her to react. My mistress has a lot on her plate at this time in her life. There those times when life gets in the way. Never the less you sex drive is off the charts. I have had men living the same type relationship tell me their mistress just lost her desire to continue on. Only to find out she could not take the amount of time he wanted her to. This type of relationship is work for both parties involved. It is one thing to use denial for sex play, it is something else to live with denial every day all day long. I tell men wanting this type of relationship with their wives if they do not have a very sexual active relationship now then maybe this is not for them. I must ask how you can be denied something you do not have?
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Part Two "Inside of a Female Led Relationship."
Posted:Sep 12, 2016 3:53 am
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2016 4:21 am
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Some will say that this type of relationship is doomed to fail. The few posts that claim it will turn out to be a disaster are not submissive men. For anyone to understand how this type of a relationship works, they must understand a submissive type personality. In order for the relationship to last long term the man has to have the capability to deal with frustration of different types. Yes of course there will be sexual frustration. That is the basis of her control over her man. Another type of frustration is born from her changing the rules, demands, and expectations. The man must have the ability to adjust his attitude and keep in mind the objective. We all change our minds about our needs, wants and desirers. There are times she will want all of your attention yet times she would rather put you in a cage so she is left alone.
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Part One "Inside of a Female Led Relationship."
Posted:Sep 11, 2016 8:25 am
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2016 4:20 am
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I want to talk to those that would love to be in a relationship with their female partner where she is in control of that relationship. If you are in that type of a relationship, please and have something to add please do so.
Above all it takes a strong woman with a lot of confidence. If you are with a woman that knows what she likes and knows how to get it, you are on your way. It is not the norm for a woman to be the one that leads in a relationship. If she is the type that wants the man to be a manly man you may be out of luck (do not give up yet). I am one of those that loves to be manly in public or with the boys. But close the door and I need her to be in charge. With her in charge she will train you to be what she wants.
My mistress is a very simple, educated and has the need to be very independent. She will be the bread winner in our home by far. She has always let me be in charge of my finances yet I have never told her what to do with her money (she has hers I have mine). It always has been the case if I need her to pay a bill she does or vice verses. I bring this up because most of the fighting between couples seems to be born from finances (or debt). Once she has control of you she has to take the lead in all aspects of your relationship. That said if you are not comfortable giving her that control then do not (she is better at than me). If you are the bread winner, then be ready to keep that status. You may want to consider taking the role of a financial slave for the greater good. That will work if you trust she will and can take care of your household with the same goals you have in place. Above all there as to be a trust between you two and great commutation.
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When does orgasm denial become a reality and no longer a game?
Posted:Sep 4, 2016 8:56 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2017 4:52 am
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Men that fantasize about wearing a chastity device long term is one thing but giving her total control may be different. I loved having an orgasm a few times a week either by having sex with her or by masturbation. This fantasy of denial some of the time is born out of guilt of masturbation and not sharing the ecstasy of an orgasm with your partner. The feeling of needing to have an orgasm is a turn on in itself and wanting to always have that feeling. Never the less we are hard wired to get aroused to mate. I am never surprised what men will do to get laid. Let us not talk about some of the things I did in my youth to have sex.

Men taught to respect women will not take advantage of their strength to overwhelm a woman to satisfy their sexual needs. I would say most (not all) married couples have sex when the woman wants it not the man. If you want to be chastised and she has always been the one to decide when she wanted sex, you just might get what you ask for.

As long as the woman is excited by the fact of having you in chastity and loves to tease you it is more of a game for her. Most men the more they want to have sex the more they will do to get it. Most women love the attention they get from men desperate for sex. When taken to an extreme they find their limits and it may become a nuance. Before I was in chastity when my mistress had a task to get done and I pestered her for sex she got agitated because it was a distraction for her. One of the first things she liked about chastity was she had the control to make me stop pestering her.

In the last eight months I have been locked up there seems to be a cycle. There are times she wants sex all the time yet times she does not. Granted life gets in the way sometimes and not much anyone can do about it. For the man in chastity your desire for sex is already elevated. At the same time you can tell when her sexual needs are elevated or not. It is the times she is overwhelmed by life you have to endure the frustration of your needs. The longer this takes place the more reality sets in.

I always ask this question when a man wants what I have. Are you now in a very sexual active relationship? If the man tells me he has not had sex with his wife for over six months then I tell them to rethink the need for orgasm denial and wanting to be placed in chastity. If you are not having sex regularly with your wife now then how shall you be denied? This type of life style only works if you know she wants it, and she gets it and you are denied it.

I had a female dominate tell in eight months ago “Be careful what you ask for you just might get it”. For us it has worked out very well and she is always finding new ways to use the control she has over me. Now the times she is dealing with life I understand and back off. This in itself has I a small way pleases her knowing when she is ready oh boy I am right there.
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How I deal with long term chastity and orgasm denial.
Posted:Sep 3, 2016 6:39 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2017 4:52 am
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I always hear how men could never handle denial and chastity. When I could not give her what she needed sexually my man hood was threatened. I changed my priorities from needing to be sexually satisfied to only wanting to satisfy her. I had become submissive long before meeting her. One of those reasons was to totally satisfy my sexual partners. Orgasm denial has given me the ability to have sex with her at the level she needs. My behavior all so changes the longer I go without an orgasm. Because of my hunger for sex I try to do whatever she wants in hope she will let me have sex. I no longer fear I will not be able to perform in bed. I can go without an orgasm for the ability to satisfy her. There are times I am frustrated and the need for sex can be over whelming. I tend to get aggressive toward her and she quickly puts me in my place.
It did not take her long to learn just how powerful orgasm denial is.
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