LIBERATION
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Posted:May 5, 2022 12:47 am
Last Updated:May 16, 2023 5:41 am 6405 Views
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Liberation (noun): the act of setting someone free from imprisonment, slavery, or oppression; release.
In Alabama, Georgia, and Ohio, r8pists now have more rights than their victims. Corpses have more bodily autonomy than anyone with a uterus (inclusive of women, trans men, non-binary folks). If you think this doesn’t affect you, you are wrong. It affects EVERYONE. Because it is only one example of the ways that oppression exists within our society.
If you think you’re free, you’re not. You may not feel your shackles as much as others, but they are still there. Oppression doesn’t just target one group of people; it STARTS with one group of people. It is how the middle class disappears, how democracy becomes theocracy, oligarchy, dictatorship.
Is it really freedom if it is at the expense of others? What about when you become the expendable one?
The word is out, privilege is no longer a secret, and ignorance is no longer viable. If you’re still ignorant, it is a stick your head in the sand and pretend it doesn’t exist kind of ignorance. Willful ignorance. You are making the choice and it is a choice that we cannot afford, and many of us do not have the ability to make.
I know many of you speak up and speak out. But some of you don’t, even when it is safer for you to do so. So, this is for you:
If you believe the government/society shouldn’t be able to tell you what you can and can’t do with your penis, how you raise your , what you do in the privacy of your own home, or whether your relationship is abusive because it includes BDSM, then you should speak up.
If you’re having sex, but wouldn’t want to raise a born with extreme pain, who will only have an existence of suffering, then you should speak up.
If you believe life starts at conception but would support abortion in cases of sexual assault and incest, you should speak up.
If you believe abortion would be a viable option if someone you were with got pregnant, you should speak up.
If you say you support someone’s right to choose, even if you wouldn’t choose it yourself, you should speak up.
If you want people to speak up against the oppression of your skin color, disability, religion, age, nationality, body shape, sex, gender, or class- you should speak up.
See, the extremism of these bills makes the pro-birth/life/choice argument obsolete. The ends DO NOT justify the means. This isn’t really about supporting abortion vs. not, it is about freedom. Do you want to be free? Speak up.
Because if you’re not speaking up for others, will there be anyone left to speak up for you?
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Sadistic Games
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Posted:May 4, 2022 1:05 am
Last Updated:May 30, 2023 3:44 am 5963 Views
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Of course, you can’t just walk down the halls of your workplace in the nude.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t be made to feel as if you are.
It’s different for everyone of course.
For some, it’s as simple as denying them the privilege of wearing panties or a bra.
Imagine that rush, catching someone glancing at you, and wondering just for a moment if they know.
Can they tell? Is it obvious? It must be, everyone can see, your blushing!
Why else would you be blushing, they know, your nipples are hard, pushing out against your shirt, with no bra to shield them.
How can it be so warm when you're wearing less? It feels like it must be a hundred degrees here.
Oh... oh no… you're getting wet… you can feel the slickness under your skirt.
Please please please don’t….. you can feel it, slowly dripping down your inner thighs.
Everybody knows, they know your secrets, they know everything.
your blushing,
your dripping,
how adorable….
~sadisticgames
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There's Something About The Mouth.....
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Posted:May 3, 2022 10:21 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2022 12:08 am 5858 Views
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“There is something about the mouth… The dark entrance to the throat. The hungry teeth, the playful tongue. The sin of consumption, of biting, of blood. How shameless the lips, curled into a smile. The need to be fed, to taste, to indulge. Daily, hourly, on repeat.”
— Helaena C Moon
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Connection
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Posted:May 2, 2022 10:40 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2022 12:44 am 5568 Views
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I ask you, what’s more important than true connection? With it, we have the ability to cultivate a life with weight and girth. A beautifully robust life. Foster healthy relationships built upon trust, respect, kindness, and honesty, but only when we allow the most vulnerable selves to be seen. Open ourselves completely to the energy of another and give and receive without judgment. Trust and feel safe. A connection can be that which gets you through the rough patches, the difficult conversations and lifts you up on days you feel less than yourself. Connection strengthens us. It makes us feel valued. Heard. A connection can also heal. Remind us we aren’t alone; there is nothing more powerful than when someone hears the song inside you.
“When we know ourselves to be connected to all others, acting compassionately is simply the natural thing to do.”
It is a modern irony that we live in a society that has so many ways to connect, so many ways to reach out, and yet we rarely put forth the effort to build connections. We talk, post, blog, and say nothing. Unfortunately, we’ve become increasingly insular and cut off. Cyber recluses. Connections take effort. They take time. Connections are investments and need to be nurtured.
“Real relationships are the product of time spent, which is why so many of us have so few of them.”
Many things you’ll discover in time can be short-lived. Physical attraction, money and success, and the boxes and boxes of stuff we buy to fill our misunderstood needs. A connection can transcend all that. If you find someone that gets you, they listen to your heart, your fears, everything. Someone you can drop your armor with. Be you with. Sees your worth. Someone who shares with you a mental and even spiritual connection. Someone who stirs your soul and inspires you. That is when you will see the greatness of connection. That is when you’ll know true intimacy.
~daily-esprit-descalier
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Friendly Reminder
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Posted:May 1, 2022 5:03 am
Last Updated:May 2, 2022 3:00 am 5759 Views
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*About Consent:
-If you aren’t sure if you have consent. Then you don’t have consent.
-If they didn’t consent at first but relented after you badgered them. You don’t have consent.
-If they didn’t consent when they were sober, but now, they’re intoxicated and not resisting. You don’t have consent.
Consent is clear, enthusiastic, and informed. Always.
*Safe, Sane, Consensual, ALWAYS.
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~Saturday Sway
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Posted:Apr 30, 2022 3:01 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2022 12:17 am 5761 Views
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* Take It To The Limit ~ The Eagles ~ One Of These Nights * Love Ain't For Keeping ~ The Who ~ Who's Next * If I Needed Someone ~ The Beatles ~ Rubber Soul * The Waiting ~ Tom Petty & Eddie Vedder ~ Denver Stadium 7/03/06 * It's All Over Now Baby Blue ~ Bob Dylan~ Bringing It All Back Home * Legalize It ~ Peter Tosh ~ Legalize It * Love You Madly ~ Cake ~ Comfort Eagle * Time And Time Again ~ Counting Crows ~August And Everything After * The Fly ~ U2 ~ Achtung Baby * Captain ~ Dave Matthew Band ~ Busted Stuff
Photo Taken By: Me
The Fly ~ U2 Oh, baby
It's no secret that the stars are falling from the sky It's no secret that our world is in darkness tonight They say the sun is sometimes eclipsed by a moon You know I don't see you when she walks in the room
It's no secret that a friend is someone who lets you help It's no secret that a liar won't believe in anyone else They say a secret is something you tell one other person So I'm telling you,
Oh love, we shine like a burning star We're falling from the sky tonight
A man will beg A man will crawl On the sheer face of love Like a fly on a wall It's no secret at all
It's no secret that a conscience can sometimes be a pest It's no secret, ambition bites the nails of success Every artist is a cannibal, every poet is a thief All kill their inspiration and sing about their grief
Oh love, we shine like a burning star We're falling from the sky tonight
A man will rise A man will fall From the sheer face of love Like a fly from a wall It's no secret at all
Oh love, we shine like a burning star We're falling from the sky tonight
Oh love, we shine like a burning star We're falling from the sky tonight
A man will rise A man will fall From the sheer face of love Like a fly from a wall It's no secret at all
It's no secret that the stars are falling from the sky The universe exploded 'cause of one man's lie Look, I gotta go, yeah, I'm running outta change There's a lot of things if I could I'd rearrange
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Red Flags for Dating as a Submissive
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Posted:Apr 29, 2022 7:27 pm
Last Updated:May 7, 2022 12:16 am 5731 Views
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Here’s the most important thing I can say about dating as a submissive:
You are 100% entitled to maintain your boundaries right until the point where you agree to give control to a partner. Anyone who says otherwise can fuck right off.
With that said, I’ve compiled a set of red flags I’ve come across in dating.
Red Flag #1: Passive-Aggressiveness When a submissive calmly raises a concern with a Dominant and they respond passive-aggressively, this is a very bad sign. For D/s to work well, I firmly believe that both parties must be able to communicate honestly and openly. This is particularly important for submissives early in a relationship. Submissives who are not comfortable with something have to be able to speak , or the dynamic is doomed from the start.
The passive-aggressive Dominant shuts down this open communication. They aren’t interested in your comfort or your trust; they just want you to shut and do as you’re told. “Fine, I won’t say it ever again.” No, that’s not what I said. But I was uncomfortable, and you didn’t care. Passive-aggressive behavior makes no attempt to understand feelings or care for them. It puts earplugs in and does whatever it wants anyway. A person like this is dangerous, on either side of the slash.
Red Flag #2: Rapid Mood Swings If someone goes from being incredibly excited to see you, to lashing out in anger in the span of 20 minutes (and you did not, say, kill their dog), this is not a stable person. Rapid mood swings are a red flag in general, but in a Dominant, they can be terrifying. Submissives put so much trust in their Dominants to be a reliable, solid source of . Rapid mood swings can destroy that trust. Again, this is true on both sides of the slash. To be clear, it’s thing to experience volatile emotions and quite another to lash out at ’s partner over them. Dominants who do this are incapable of controlling themselves, and for that reason, they should never be trusted to lead a D/s dynamic.
Red Flag #3: Guilt Trips and Manipulation of the most important traits in a Dominant is respect for boundaries. The things we do require so much trust that a submissive must know their boundaries are respected. Guilt trips try to needle you away from your boundaries into space that you have not freely consented to give yourself.
“If you really loved me, you would…"—Oh? If you really loved me, you wouldn’t ask me to do something after I’ve said no. Repeatedly. And give your reasons.
“You’re keeping me from being myself if you don’t let me do this. “—All I said was that I’m not ready yet. If your identity involves taking control from people who aren’t ready, then go be yourself with someone else.
“I’m the worst Dom ever and don’t deserve you."—I call this one the crocodile tear guilt trip. It’s designed to get you to say, "No, you’re wonderful.” And then they say, “Then why won’t you do x for me?” This faux self-pity nonsense is both weak and manipulative.
Red Flag #4: Invalidating Your Feelings If you feel uncomfortable or unhappy or not ready for something, you are 0% entitled to feel that way. Now, a good submissive (or relationship partner in general) will try to understand those feelings and share the reasons for them to help their Dominant lead more effectively. And a good Dominant will listen and try to understand. But if a Dominant says you shouldn’t feel what you feel, that’s a red flag. If a Dominant brush your feelings off as a sign of inexperience or lack of knowledge or any other thing, that’s a red flag. If you are uncomfortable, you are uncomfortable. Full stop. Maybe you will be more comfortable with talking and research and so on. But that does not invalidate your feelings at this moment. And any Dominant who tries to invalidate your feelings like that is not someone you can trust to take care of you.
Red Flag #5: Assuming Control in One Area Means Control in All Areas It’s not unusual to give control in some areas before others. In fact, this is basically how it should happen. Gradually, submissives and Dominants build trust, and submissives more and more control to their Dominants. It’s a beautiful thing.
Many Dominants try to take too much control too early. They get twitchy sometimes because they know how to fix all the things if we would just let them have control omg now, please. But good Dominants will recognize when they’ve overstepped and will step back. It’s a red flag when they don't—when they assume that control in area entitles them to control everywhere.
Dominants do not have control unless you give it to them. Freely and enthusiastically. Period. Control in the bedroom, for example, doesn’t give a Dominant the authority to create new rules unilaterally. Especially early on. It’s a red flag when a Dominant demands new rules without first discussing them and understanding the submissive’s feelings. And it’s a flaming red flag when they get angry when you push back or say you’re not ready.
Red Flag #6: Overuse of the Phrase “Topping from the Bottom” I don’t universally hate the phrase “topping from the bottom” as some people do. But I will say that 80% of the time I see it, it’s being used to manipulate an uncomfortable submissive into silence and obedience. This phrase is especially alarming when there is no committed D/s dynamic. In the early stages of dating, submission is more-or-less ad hoc. You choose to obey (or not) at every moment, as you feel comfortable. And you make that part of your ongoing dialogue about what you’re ready to give and what you’re not.
When a Dominant push your boundaries, you are entitled to say no. And if they say this is topping from the bottom, they can fuck off. Maintaining boundaries in areas you have not given control is not topping from the bottom. Maintaining boundaries when you are not in a committed dynamic is not topping from the bottom.
You cannot top from the bottom in areas where you have not consented to be bottom.
Red Flag #7: Questioning Your Submissiveness “I pretty much figured out you aren’t really submissive about a week ago.” This came after a Dominant repeatedly stepped over my boundaries. This Dominant tried to unilaterally set a rule 2 weeks into our dating and got angry when I said I was willing to do a task but did not have an established rule. Then a week later, this Dominant demanded more of my time. When I gave very specific, good reasons about my life being incredibly stressful for the next month or so, this Dominant told me I’m not a real submissive.
If a Dominant is going to insult your identity because you don’t follow rules you never agreed to, they can 0% fuck right off. Being submissive is not about letting anyone with a D by their name walk all over you from the first moment they meet you. Anyone who expects that does not give a shit about who you are or what you need. They do not respect you. They will not take care of you.
Submissives have a right to boundaries, right to the point that they freely and enthusiastically give control of those boundaries to their Dominants. Anger, instability, manipulation, and repeated overstepping are huge red flags in a Dominant. I won’t give my submission to just anyone, and I won’t give it to anyone who shows such entitlement and disregard for my boundaries. Especially early on. I know who I am. No one is going to make me question my submissive heart. Especially not someone so domineering and undeserving of my trust.
I’m sure this list is the beginning. Please feel free to add to these with your own red flags.
~cherished property
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Grinding
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Posted:Apr 28, 2022 1:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2022 6:17 pm 6055 Views
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I keep seeing those posts about someone grinding in a lap while making out and fuck does that tug at the strings. Oh, sure, the act of someone grinding into my thigh is plainly sexual. Feel their thighs tense and their body writhes as they work to push as close as possible. To grind against just the right places. To react to the motion of my leg beneath them, and the way my own muscles contract and relax in response to the sway of their hips and their center of balance.
It’s this beautiful little exchange happening in those little movements, but it goes so much further. Are your hands clutching at me? Are your fingertips digging into my back? Are your fingers curled into my shirt, tugging at it? Is it to get as close to me as possible? Is it to pull my clothing from me? Do you even realize you’re doing it? Maybe there isn’t a reason at all. Maybe all of these lovely, perfect little motions aren’t the result of conscious thought. Maybe they’re just in response to the kiss.
And that kiss. So much urgency. So much need. Let’s just stay like this for as long as we can. Let’s just need each other and love it. Let me lose myself in this moment, and feel like I am the answer to all that you seek. Just straddle me, straddle my thigh, and let your every little response to my touch drive me wild. Let me fall in love with you all over again, and be mesmerized by the way your hips move against my palm or get lost in rediscovering the arch of your back and shoulders. Let me drink in your kisses and taste your tongue, and discover every little noise you make, every little thing that makes your breath catch, or leaves you gasping. The little nips. The little bites. The moans that might escape should I trace your throat with my lips or kiss your jawline. No, no further. Not yet. Stay there. Let me hold you there where I want you while I have my senses. Fingers in your hair, or against your throat, holding you in place so I can tease you and tease you and love every little movement you make without realizing your body is moving.
Let me love you. Let me feel loved for a little while too. Needed. Let me memorize every little piece of you. Just grind and react and let me lose myself in this, and maybe lose yourself in me too. Let me tug on your strings, and pull my heart right out of my chest with the way that feeling you like these tugs at mine, too.
~hisdarkthoughts
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The Need
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Posted:Apr 26, 2022 10:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2022 1:38 am 5654 Views
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Sex? Sexy is easy. Easy to find. Easy to do without. Honestly most days my battery-operated boyfriend is better and less hassle than actual sex.
But some days I just ACHE to be submissive. The need to be filled, used, and defiled is so strong it claws at me every waking moment.
I sit at work, in meetings, and at the bar with friends. I’m present and participating but I’m also keenly aware of the ache that throbs insistently between my legs. If I close my eyes, even for a second, I can imagine a tall form behind me, a deep voice in my ear. Hands that take what they want. Fingers that plunge deep inside me, a hard cock that chokes me, an edge of pain to my pleasure, and a mouth that demands everything.
But I also yearn for the quiet moments. Kneeling at his feet. Following his lead. Trusting his decisions. I burn to hear a murmured “good girl” and a growled, “you’re mine.” I want to serve, to ease his mind, to show him how he is the yin to my yang.
The busier my external world, the more I have to lead in my vanilla life, and the greater this need gets. Clawing at me until I think I will go mad. Nature demands balance. My body demands dominance. My soul demands peace. Only submitting to him can give me that.
exoticeva~
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