Close Please enter your Username and Password
Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
Password reset link sent to
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service

My Blog

Welcome to my blog!

This is for all the babygurl and daddy's out there
Posted:Aug 14, 2018 2:12 am
Last Updated:Sep 14, 2018 12:27 am
34384 Views

Girls. What do you do for your daddy's birthday beside let him use you. I should have asked this earlier but I am having trouble finding the proper gift outside of the bedroom?

Daddy's what are some of the most memorable gifts your babygurl has given you outside the bedroom?

I am looking for something unique because it is hard when by the time you come along as a babygurl and your mommy or daddy already has everything they want and I am too old to draw pictures or make playdough ashtrays. But I am on a budget as my allowance is age appropriate.
0 Comments
Daddies and daugters. Reposted
Posted:Aug 2, 2018 11:50 am
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2018 2:00 am
35408 Views

This blog is being reposted from my Daddy's page with his permission.

It is most challenging to be a good daddy dom. Domination of a woman is still an awesome responsibility but can be done if a dominant truly understands the lifestyle. Being a good daddy dominant is taking it to a much higher level. A loving dominant totally understands that the relationship is not about the dominant; it is totally about the submissive. It becomes even more so with the little or baby girl. Their innocence is much more real and they can be devastatingly damaged within the BDSM relationship. They are the princess! Just like a , they seek unconditional love, support, and protection. A dominant that plays with her emotions will destroy her. It is a mistake to assume that she wants that role. It is neither a role nor play. It is reality!

LovingDomWI
0 Comments
general question to confirmed members
Posted:Jul 29, 2018 11:35 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2018 2:01 am
34985 Views

I went through the process of confirming myself here on Saturday. I was just wondering how long it takes for them to decide to add that to your profile because I don't think that it is a manual process given you put all of your info in and upload the photo. How would a person know whether or not to add that any better or worse than an automated system. Anyway, I was just wondering because I never even got a message or e:mail regarding that.
0 Comments
This is another to each his own
Posted:Jul 29, 2018 11:22 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2018 2:01 am
34933 Views

Ok, so last time was about photos. This is about instant messaging. I realize that standard members can't see your profile unless you friend them or pay a monthly fee that allows them to see your profile which I refuse to pay to let ppl who don't want to pay so they can see my profile. BUT here is the thing. Lately, I have been getting a lot of messages where the first thing they say is vulgar or their thoughts of what they want to do with you.

I am not a prude by any means, but if I approach someone I don't know, I say hello and if I were to play here, I would ASK them what they were into if they left their profile blank or ask them what they wanted from me. But lately, I have just been telling them that I prefer to find out if the person wants to play before I start telling them the things that I have been told like how he wanted to shit on me then make me clean his asshole with my tongue and you know.

Again, I like to keep things classy and a bit of a mystery until I know who I am talking to. Am I just being a prude or is it ok that I instantly block them when they say things like that without even saying a simple hello or asking me to friend them so that they can see my profile and THEN decide what I may or may not like them to say based on my relationship status and kinks?

I know that many are on here just to get themselves off when they don't have anyone to do that for them or they just would rather not be alone, but most people on this site that I have seen are actually looking for relationships whether they be sex only, online only, or long term. Given that, I don't understand the people who think they are so awesome that they can just approach a total stranger and start a conversation in the way that I described above.
0 Comments
To each his own, but what would you rather see?
Posted:Jul 27, 2018 3:36 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2018 2:13 am
35723 Views

People who don't have access to my profile, or don't care when I tell them that I don't do nude photos. While there is one on my profile, you will see that it is carefully posed to leave enough to the imagination. Now, I am not saying what is right and wrong when it comes to pictures, but we have all seen bare asses, tits, and kitties. So, that is why I really don't do nudes on top of the fact that it is really not allowed my my master. There is ONE person who we have both talked to and know well enough who has asked me and I am trying to get the courage up, but while I know that it is one of the more submissive and vulnerable things a person can do for another, I still like my class. Even on the beach,I prefer a nicely cut suit that shows what it needs to and leaves the rest to the imagination, Now I am not saying that those who post profile pics of just those things are wrong because they are and should be proud 0f what they have. I am too. I just prefer that if a photo ever gets out on the internet outside of this account, I can say Damn I look good and if anyone I know were to see it, it is less embarrassment for me. Thoughts? We can agree to disagree and still be friends or friendly, but maybe there is something I missed or am missing out of.
1 comment
creepy thing
Posted:Jul 27, 2018 12:45 pm
Last Updated:Aug 2, 2018 9:49 am
35488 Views

Ok, so one night, I was talking to someone who lived in my area. We ended up talking on the phone and he asked me for a pic. I don't exchange pics on here because really, you never really know who you are dealing with. I told him that I wasn't allowed per my Master and he continued to tell me that was a sign of a master who was insecure and he just wanted a pic. Then the pic turned into me in a submissive position for him, and this is one of the reasons I don't just blindly send pics. They start out at one thing and then another and before you know it, they are asking for nudes and I am sorry, but that is by permission only to people we both know and trust and even then it is hard for me. So then this person who was like 36 told me that I was playing games and that we knew each other and that he knew every curve of my body and my tattoos. I have one. I asked who he was and he would not tell me. I asked what my tattoos looked like and he told me that it was not my place to ask him, but that I was playing games. Needless to say, I make it a rule that anyone I play with has to be 10 years older than me or more. Also, he said tats with an S. I only have one. But it was enough to creep me out because I totally do not know who this person is and I know that I haven't played with anyone since I met my master and certainly not in real life. Lesson learned, who cares if they live blocks away from you, don't give your personal information unless they are willing to tell you specifics. I met someone who lives right up the street from me on this site and we still talk and had a bbq and visit once in a while. That was only because the first time we did anything together, it was in a public place and I didn't have my master.
0 Comments
Who belongs here.
Posted:Jul 11, 2018 3:52 pm
Last Updated:Jul 27, 2018 12:25 pm
35885 Views

Recently I got a message from some random guy who said that he read my profile and blog and told me that he didn't see a reason for me to be here. So, this blog is for him.

First, I was here at least a year before I met my Master and in the time I was here, I made so many friends. Mostly Dom's, but subs, men, and women of all kinds. I have gotten both advice and ideas from those people and a few have made it very easy for me to ask all of the questions I have since I am new to this lifestyle.

When I joined this site, I was very curious and had never even thought about a D/s relationship. Since I met my Master 1.5 years ago, I still consider myself new to the lifestyle because he really takes it easy on me because of a certain health condition that I have so I am still learning.

My thoughts are this. Since this is a public site, ANYONE with a curiosity, little experience, moderate experience, and very experienced can be here. I see many people here who have a Dom, Domme, sub, or slave here. There is no rule that once you find your better half that says you must leave this site immediately.

I enjoy coming here and talking to all of the friends I have made. I love the advice I have been given. And I welcome new friends into my network. We all have different ideas of what this lifestyle is and there is no wrong or right. I am a babygurl. There are many types of Dom's and Domme's as well as different types of sub's and slaves.

I can't think of any subset of people that I can't have a conversation with and not come away knowing something I didn't know before. I have a friend who thinks BDSM is mainly for groups and that many relationships including mine are not true BDSM. Is he wrong? NO. It is his interpretation and there is nothing wrong with that.

My Master has been so careful with me that sometimes I wonder when the real D/s type play is going to come in. I mean we do play and we do everything but whips which can draw blood if you aren't careful, but I have only walked away once thinking "ouch" and that had to be terminated early because while I wanted more, he was there and saw the damage it was causing someone on blood thinners. Do I think I am any less legitimate that others? No.

I think that while we are taking it slow and learning what I can and can't take as dictated by my health and not my brain, there is no reason that I don't consider myself part of the lifestyle. It isn't all about sex. It is about so much more. It is about total submission. about trust. About respect. About building a bond that is stronger than just about any vanilla bond because he literally holds my life in his hands and I have to be 100% confident that he will treat my life with the frailty that comes with living. We can all die at any time no matter what. But a true Dom has respect for that life and would never cross the line and put his sub or slave at risk.

I have seen people who are able to play a lot harder than me and I have wondered how after being hit so hard with that bat (it was padded) they can not cry out or scream, but say "Thank you Sir" I have seen people who are like me who play soft and are happy with that. I have seen couples own a slave, I have met cross dressers, trans people, gay or lesbian people, professionals, white collar and beginners.

So, who belongs here? Anyone who wants to be here and respects the members on here. Even if they disrespect, there is such a thing as a block button. The biggest thing that I learned here was that there are so many fetishes that a person can't imagine them all unless they spend a lot of time studying the sexual mind of humans.

So you might think that someone has an odd fetish, but I am willing to bet that for every fetish you think that of, there is at least a small group of people not only here, but in other places with those things in common. I learned not to judge. And while the person who took the time to message me and tell me that I didn't belong here had nothing in their profile and didn't introduce themselves as someone either way. While I didn't turn around and ask why he was here, or get snarky with him, I did at least think that if he could just be like that, then I feel sorry for whoever his sub is. But that thought was quickly replaced with the thought that regardless of my opinion of him from that very short message, there is at the very least one person out there who would find him to be what they want.

Anyway, that was on my mind so I thought I would put it out there and see what other people thought.

Also, I am going to ask this in everything I write. You know how we have to choose a category to put our blog in? I was wondering how we look up blogs by category. Does anyone know?

Have a happy Day!!!!!!!!
Love ya all!
0 Comments
4th of July
Posted:Jul 3, 2018 2:57 pm
Last Updated:Jul 8, 2018 3:50 pm
36407 Views

Happy 4th of July to everyone! Anyone with special or unique plans? I would love to see what creative minds are here so please, do tell. I'll tell mine as soon as I am told what they are.
0 Comments
Too much vanilla
Posted:Jun 27, 2018 1:19 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2018 4:09 pm
38679 Views

Ok, first, I am going to start with by saying we both have a lot going on in our personal lives and our living arrangements do get in the way part of the time. But I am starting to feel like we have too much vanilla in our relationship. Is this normal? I usually initiate sex and have lately asked to play because we havent been able to in a while. Is this normal? Does this happen to everyone? How do you get out of a slump?
1 comment
another need for advice
Posted:Jun 21, 2018 12:47 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 11:27 am
39367 Views

A year and a half ago, I accepted a collar from someone. We hit it off and just 6 weeks ago were married as well. His is getting married and knew that we were married before he sent out his wedding invitations. The invitation we received in the mail was addressed just to my husband. And to add insult to injury, I walked into the room where my Master and husband was talking on the phone with his .

Since I met his before and his girlfriend, I was in the middle of telling my husband to say hello to him and his fiance when I heard his tell my husband that he did not want me at the wedding because of the drama it would cause.

I was devastated. When we met, things were nice, he hugged me hello and goodbye, and his reasoning for not wanting me at the wedding was because his dad didn't tell him that we got married and he felt left out because he wasn't invited to the wedding.

We eloped. NOBODY was invited, and it was a surprise even to me that we were getting married that week. He gave me the license to fill out while we were on the plane, and after we landed, we got our rental care and went straight to the courthouse.

I told him that he should tell his family and he said he would when the time was right, but he didn't want crap from his ex wife. As soon as we were married, I called his dad because we have a good relationship and his number was the only number I had.

My problem is this. First, my husband sent him a detailed letter telling him why it is rude to invite someone but not their spouse. He also pointed out that if HE was not the one to tell his we got married, why is his taking it out on ME.

I want to support him in whatever choice he makes, but at the same time, I cry when I think about it and the reason that he was told that I wasn't invited. His wrote back and told his dad that he was missing the point and that because nobody knew we were married right away, this would somehow cause drama at the wedding and he stood by his decision and didn't want me there.

So what should I do? His obviously doesn't care if his father comes or not. But his father cares that if he does go I won't be at his side where I belong. But I don't want to make him miss his 's wedding, however, they aren't close to begin with. We live in Wisconsin and his lives in Seattle and never calls, txts, or writes. He didn't even text his dad to say happy father's day let alone call.

I want to be supportive. I really do. But my gut tells me that if he would rather his father not come if he couldn't bring me, then why should I expect him to go and let them disrespect meas his wife in that way?

Whenever he does come into town, he will be here for a week at a time and only spend maybe an hour visiting his dad and spend the rest of his time with his mom. I know this bothers my Master and husband so I really don't know how to advise him.

I always teach my to be selfless and that is what I should be here, but at the same time, what happens when they do come for that hour over Christmas or any other time? I know that I won't be able to talk to him. I won't say anything rude, but I won't cook a big lunch for them like I did last time, and I won't talk to them at all. Ahd my Master/husband, told me he understands and agrees that as long as I don't say anything rude that not saying anything at all will be the right thing to do.

But this is setting the tone for future relationships and while I said before, my Master/husband basically gets crumbs when it comes to his , I really don't want to make an already poor relationship even worse. But also like I said before, if he does go, I will be devastated. Anyone? Help?
0 Comments

To link to this blog (sweetliltracy) use [blog sweetliltracy] in your messages.