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cuzisaid 53F  
5595 posts
9/9/2018 2:15 pm
Back To School: Safety&Education Series-2018© RUBEx CUBED

Is there really ever a BAD time to refresh and expand your mind and kink knowledge?

I don't believe so.

Today's safety and Education tip:

Keep it simple when trying something new

If you are unfamiliar with Rube Goldberg, he was a cartoonist inventor and a myriad of other things who made a name for himself by doing the simplest of things in the most over complicated manner with as many steps and parts as possible.

I find his creativity and commitment to extra work for little payoff fascinating both because he was so willing to make his life harder by choice and because he did defying human natures' least path of resistance/amount of effort so well.

When it comes to rope bondage/whips of any sort or learning any new skill really, taking it slow and steady step by step mastering as you go is the safer and more responsible option than living the "if one is good 3 must be better" path of earning what NOT to do.

Getting your KINK fix on a website if fraught with a lot of misinformation or a lack of usable information.

Model photo shoots and porn GIFs are not a good learning tool. They are staged and posed for only a few seconds after hours of work by a crew of background support people just outside of the frame who stand by to swoop in and relieve the unsustainable pose needed for the shot as needed.

While it is quite common to get your own ideas from a photo or clip, going the Goldberg route and trying to work in multiple types of play into a scene, just because you've seen them done separately and thought they looked good is dangerous and can be debilitating to the bottom.

Master 0ne skill at a time, attempting mastery whenever possible by gathering as much information from as many sources as you can find before moving on to learning the next type of skill play.

Look at this pic below


**courtesy of the internet

Can you imagine being this bottom who was just bound in rope with their upper arms and wrists BOTH bound behind their back as their top gets the great idea to start aiming hard objects at their ass 2" below.

Where do the bottoms hands go? Are the ropes loose enough to make fists? Would it make more sense to not do the upper arms for more range of movement or better yet, bind the wrists off to the side IF spanking or anything else is involved.

This type of rope work is lovely and stands on its own, but it was not meant to be combined with things that would put the bottom face down or walking/bending over which would make her off balance and most likely fall.
Its made to be a visual display sitting or standing in place and its simple beauty stands on its own. It doesnt need additional types of play added in.

Keep it simple. Don't be a Kinky Rube

Brain first..................THINK
Education second....LEARN
Interact third........PRACTICE

Have a tip to share? Please post it here or in your own space in your own words.

Learning is never a bad thing.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


jenny14 75T  
90125 posts
9/9/2018 3:21 pm

cuzi

Excellent advise again!

Especially with "Breath Play" Think of Michael Hutchence for one!!

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/9/2018 6:10 pm

    Quoting  :

WooHoo, SM 101! Thats the book I was trying to think of. Lol I was trying like crazy the other day to remember the name of that book by Jay. I could remember his name but not the book title. It was one of the few mainstream 'manuals' that I read that really resonated and that I found informative from a technical/technique standpoint.

Thank you very much, QL, for including that awesome excerpt! It never hurts to share our knowledge and experiences with those who might be looking for same.

Your selection definitely spells out quite well one of those often overlooked steps when one is first dipping their toe into the bondage and impact play pool.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/10/2018 11:07 am

    Quoting jenny14:
    cuzi

    Excellent advise again!

    Especially with "Breath Play" Think of Michael Hutchence for one!!
Good point, Jenny.

It is so easy to get carried away

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/10/2018 11:07 am

    Quoting  :

Well thank you. Happy point hunting?

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


tahimikbayani 53M
8008 posts
9/10/2018 7:47 pm

Very Intuitive of you Professor...my tribute to Russell Johnson.


DancingDom 74M
22476 posts
9/11/2018 9:12 am

Excellent advice. I love the photo too.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


GOD_GOD_GOD 98M

9/13/2018 10:14 am

In my experience the slaves have certain rope placements that feel good, it's a personal thing. The practical applications are something else. The more aggressive use of rope is better for a slave who is well into the aroused state which is more tolerant of pain and in this state they usually revel in it. You can have a very mild and pleasant experiment with rope that can be very sensual. As mentioned here the rope type is very interesting too. long lengths of crisp new cotton rope gently tied to the ankles and wound up the legs and thighs in a comfortable supportive way to be tied there before traversing across the butt cheeks to be then secured at the waist. From there you can cross it around to the front across the breasts to loop over the shoulders to bring it down to cut into the pussy flesh before biting into her ass hole and being drawn up between the buttocks to bind her wrists behind her back. If she shows signs of nipple enlargement and tightening you can use the frayed end of the rope to circumnavigate a path around the aereola to cause goose bumps to appear. You should do this for a while before touching the nipple with the rope. If she becomes wild and uncontrollable it may be that she is now ready for the weighted nipple clamps. Is anyone being turned on by this? Maybe I should stop now. Maybe I shouldn't have started. You can also freeze the ends of small ropes into ice cubes on warm days and secure them so they jiggle about her areas. Amen !


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/30/2018 1:01 pm

    Quoting  :

My darling, if I could ever find a guy who likes sensual rope bondage AND me, I'd be all for it.

My experience has been that the few fellas who do rope do so only to impress others in public not entice and arouse in private.

I love rope bondage. Tres erotique

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/30/2018 1:03 pm

    Quoting tahimikbayani:
    Very Intuitive of you Professor...my tribute to Russell Johnson.
Aye,aye, aye Skipper, I do believe Gilligan's boat has slipped its moorings

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/30/2018 1:10 pm

    Quoting GOD_GOD_GOD:
    In my experience the slaves have certain rope placements that feel good, it's a personal thing. The practical applications are something else. The more aggressive use of rope is better for a slave who is well into the aroused state which is more tolerant of pain and in this state they usually revel in it. You can have a very mild and pleasant experiment with rope that can be very sensual. As mentioned here the rope type is very interesting too. long lengths of crisp new cotton rope gently tied to the ankles and wound up the legs and thighs in a comfortable supportive way to be tied there before traversing across the butt cheeks to be then secured at the waist. From there you can cross it around to the front across the breasts to loop over the shoulders to bring it down to cut into the pussy flesh before biting into her ass hole and being drawn up between the buttocks to bind her wrists behind her back. If she shows signs of nipple enlargement and tightening you can use the frayed end of the rope to circumnavigate a path around the aereola to cause goose bumps to appear. You should do this for a while before touching the nipple with the rope. If she becomes wild and uncontrollable it may be that she is now ready for the weighted nipple clamps. Is anyone being turned on by this? Maybe I should stop now. Maybe I shouldn't have started. You can also freeze the ends of small ropes into ice cubes on warm days and secure them so they jiggle about her areas. Amen !
Ok, sweetie, that is sexy fo realz.

You know I adore you beyond belief but honestly, I cant see you enjoying the tremendous amount of time it takes to do such rope harnesses.

It is so time consuming when done slowly and properly(to prevent rope burns) one really has to have a love of it to even want to dedicate the time and effort. I think that may be why so few do it and use cuffs for restraint instead.

Still when done.....*sighs* yeeeaaahhhhhh

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
9/30/2018 1:15 pm

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Excellent advice. I love the photo too.
Thank you for appreciating the subtle pointing out of not cross scening without thought.

I like the shown halter style but its made for breast exposure not much else with her shoulders drawn back and bound so tightly.

I know most here do not engage in any R/T activities, but it cant hurt to point out little ways to play or educate can it? I hope not.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


GOD_GOD_GOD 98M

10/2/2018 10:30 pm

I've got really good at it over time ,even tying a girl up that way in the back of a cab whilst dropping her off at the bus stop.


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
10/6/2018 9:48 pm

    Quoting GOD_GOD_GOD:
    I've got really good at it over time ,even tying a girl up that way in the back of a cab whilst dropping her off at the bus stop.
Yes, Dear.

Must be one heck of an interesting and lengthy cab ride.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


bullsadist 65M  
43 posts
1/12/2019 1:26 pm

I love rope, but hey I'm an old navy guy and knots have always intrigued me. To me nothing is sexier than a helpless woman. I've found thru the years that putting ropes on is sexy as hell. Getting them off quickly in case of emergency or just because I'm moving on to something else is frustrating. I combat that by tying half hithes ( half a shoelace not) and then locking them with another simple half hitch. The shoelace knot takes the strain and gets really tight but the half hitch remains loose. That way if she gets a cramp in her leg, zip - zip and she's out. It makes you look competent with your rope skills.
I liked what the guy above said about the silk ties. I'm going to try that but I'm wondering if it stretches. Ropes that don't stretch cause burns. I like a soft cotton braid 3/8". It stretches enough to allow the sub to create enough space to be able to move just a little for comfort and blood circulation. Stretchy rope is not for unsupervised restraint because unless she is four pointed, she will get out. Why do you think all the bad guys use lamp cord. It doesn't stretch at all.


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
1/15/2019 10:45 am

    Quoting bullsadist:
    I love rope, but hey I'm an old navy guy and knots have always intrigued me. To me nothing is sexier than a helpless woman. I've found thru the years that putting ropes on is sexy as hell. Getting them off quickly in case of emergency or just because I'm moving on to something else is frustrating. I combat that by tying half hithes ( half a shoelace not) and then locking them with another simple half hitch. The shoelace knot takes the strain and gets really tight but the half hitch remains loose. That way if she gets a cramp in her leg, zip - zip and she's out. It makes you look competent with your rope skills.
    I liked what the guy above said about the silk ties. I'm going to try that but I'm wondering if it stretches. Ropes that don't stretch cause burns. I like a soft cotton braid 3/8". It stretches enough to allow the sub to create enough space to be able to move just a little for comfort and blood circulation. Stretchy rope is not for unsupervised restraint because unless she is four pointed, she will get out. Why do you think all the bad guys use lamp cord. It doesn't stretch at all.
*nods* I like the old-school soft cotton clothesline rope best for many reasons the most important is feel on skin.

There isnt the color choices that the silky co=vered rope has but it does hold knots better. AS in 'at all.

Quick release is vital for some types of binding for sure. Ive never done that type of restraint to have to worry about it though I did have a knife and surgical scissors in my bag, not that I needed them thankfully. Your way is better. I just suck at knots.

Silk ties are like scarves and cuffs more than ropes so to me, mostly a diff kind of thing. Bedroom bondage is doable quick and easy for regular or spontaneous use.

Rope play is when time and inclination allow which seems so rare and therefor maybe more precious.

Thanks for the input and great tips!

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~



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