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anaughtyslave 26F  
134 posts
2/28/2019 2:12 pm
Who Should I Choose?

I've been thinking about a lot of things:

My friend: I've known her since '11 and she was verbally abusive to when we were a couple in '18. She's been to help get a job and wants to help herself with her nastiness. She wants to get back together again and be a couple. But I don't think we should be a couple. I can't see us being a couple and having a future together. But her birthday is in March and I have a lot of birthday presents for her.

Ex-Girlfriend: I've known her since '14 and we've broken up and gotten back together. She's beautiful and sexy and we've had good times together. I can see a future with her and I can see myself proposing marriage to her and getting married under a chuppah (she's Jewish) and having a family (she'd be the one having the baby). But I've broken up with her in the past because I wasn't sure if I wasn't 100% about her being the One times. However, she's the only women comes to mind when it comes to marriage and who I want to spend the rest of my life with.
My Friend
My Ex-Girlfriend


100mph_tongue 65M
1738 posts
2/28/2019 5:27 pm

Simple - NEITHER of them at this stage. Girl you and I have spoken a bit outside this blog and to me, you are unsure of what you want, either to experience or in life. You should, because of your age and lack of life experiences get out and sample all sorts of things and find the real you. Learn things, try things, meet new people and just enjoy life without any complications or pressures. I am telling you the same things that I told my own kids, because when they eventually got into a relationship, there was a better chance of it lasting, and being something that would take them into a more contented and solid future.

I have told you in the past that I don't want to see you abused or disillusioned with this life as it can be exciting and fulfilling, but only if your prepared to have an open mind and trust in your partner/s, providing you select them properly and for the right reason. Then you will find enlightenment and satisfaction.


504bassett 65M  
546 posts
2/28/2019 6:14 pm

I hate to be a "go along", except when it's called for. I think 100mph_tongue has said something quite wise and worth paying attention to.

I'm just sayin'.


Dreamcatcher__ 82M
5333 posts
2/28/2019 6:38 pm

Alan's right. You've got time to get it right, especially since you don't have body-clock issues.


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
2/28/2019 6:45 pm

    Quoting 100mph_tongue:
    Simple - NEITHER of them at this stage. Girl you and I have spoken a bit outside this blog and to me, you are unsure of what you want, either to experience or in life. You should, because of your age and lack of life experiences get out and sample all sorts of things and find the real you. Learn things, try things, meet new people and just enjoy life without any complications or pressures. I am telling you the same things that I told my own kids, because when they eventually got into a relationship, there was a better chance of it lasting, and being something that would take them into a more contented and solid future.

    I have told you in the past that I don't want to see you abused or disillusioned with this life as it can be exciting and fulfilling, but only if your prepared to have an open mind and trust in your partner/s, providing you select them properly and for the right reason. Then you will find enlightenment and satisfaction.
I've been thinking about my Ex-Girlfriend During the afternoon while I was out and called her today. She and I reunited and talked a lot and better news:

WE'RE BACK TOGETHER!!!!! 8D <3333


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
2/28/2019 6:52 pm

She was all I could think about while I was out oday and when it came to getting married, my ex-boyfriend didn't come to mind, my friend didn't come to mind - only her.


CurvySubBBW 45F  
121 posts
2/28/2019 11:04 pm

They are exes for a reason. Life is about moving forward and growing, not looking back. You tried. It didnt work. Move forward.


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100mph_tongue 65M
1738 posts
3/1/2019 12:00 am

    Quoting CurvySubBBW:
    They are exes for a reason. Life is about moving forward and growing, not looking back. You tried. It didnt work. Move forward.
Dear girl Curvy has hit the nail on the head. You have age on your side, grow first into a better and more knowledgeable girl before you go jumping from one situation to another. Only last month you wanted to know what to do about your bf and getting back together. You were given advice, and now, not a month later and with him NOT letting you down, YOU change your mind AGAIN. These are not the actions of someone who truly knows what they want or need.

Rest assured girl, while you continue this way, you will get very blunt and critical guidance from me, at least, and probably others as well. But remember this, NONE of us are doing for anyone's benefit other than yours.


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
3/1/2019 5:24 am

    Quoting 100mph_tongue:
    Dear girl Curvy has hit the nail on the head. You have age on your side, grow first into a better and more knowledgeable girl before you go jumping from one situation to another. Only last month you wanted to know what to do about your bf and getting back together. You were given advice, and now, not a month later and with him NOT letting you down, YOU change your mind AGAIN. These are not the actions of someone who truly knows what they want or need.

    Rest assured girl, while you continue this way, you will get very blunt and critical guidance from me, at least, and probably others as well. But remember this, NONE of us are doing for anyone's benefit other than yours.
About the ex-bf, half of me didn't trust him nor want him back, but the other half of me was thinking over about what he said about me being the one for him. Then, I blindly thought, after those comments on that blog, that maybe I should just give him one more chance. But when we got together on a Monday or Tuesday, face to face and talked, my wise half was like, "you gotta break up with him. I can foresee him cheating on you with other women. Don't trust him and don't stay together with him. Break the fuck up with him right now or you will wish you never got back together with him!" And those instincts were right. So I trusted my instincts and broke up with him. And I trusted my instincts about my ex-girlfriend. Last time I broke up with her was in Oct. I have had a long time to do a lot of thinking over things.


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
3/1/2019 5:29 am

And she and I have known each other since 2014. It is not like she and I knew each other for only year and have been getting back together and on and off this entire time. We were good friends first and then we finally became a couple in late 2017.


100mph_tongue 65M
1738 posts
3/1/2019 5:48 am

That may very well be true about being good friends girl, but after you went from that stage to lovers, that is when your troubles started if I am reading the situation right chronologically. So go slow, don't rush, because she may just be a friend for life rather than a lover/partner. It is better to go slow and be sure rather than rush in and end up with a fucked situation that costs money and heartache to get out of.


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
3/1/2019 6:25 am

    Quoting 100mph_tongue:
    That may very well be true about being good friends girl, but after you went from that stage to lovers, that is when your troubles started if I am reading the situation right chronologically. So go slow, don't rush, because she may just be a friend for life rather than a lover/partner. It is better to go slow and be sure rather than rush in and end up with a fucked situation that costs money and heartache to get out of.
I do agree with you on that, Alan, and I don't plan to rush on anything. She and I are going to start off slow as a couple and just date and have a fun time together. I love her very much and I'm trusting my instincts about her instead of second guessing myself.


wiseone9591 72M  
208 posts
3/1/2019 10:10 am

My advice to you is do what your heart tells you to do. However, be prepared for disappointment if it happens. You are young and you seem to change your mind a lot on a whim. Enjoy what you have now but know that it may not be what you end up with.


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
3/1/2019 10:29 am

    Quoting wiseone9591:
    My advice to you is do what your heart tells you to do. However, be prepared for disappointment if it happens. You are young and you seem to change your mind a lot on a whim. Enjoy what you have now but know that it may not be what you end up with.
That sounds like the kind of advice I'd receive for when I got back together with my ex-boyfriend but I appreciate it nevertheless


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
3/1/2019 3:56 pm

Thank you


Bob691969 49M  
4 posts
3/4/2019 6:00 pm

Ex-GF - Your description on each says it all...

But since the relationship dilemma seems to be more that you seem to know what you want but are here asking strangers... there's something you haven't accepted about yourself being with her.

Just take the plunge and enjoy the present for a while. Get used to who you both are as a couple before you worry if she's the 'One'.


anaughtyslave 26F  
77 posts
3/5/2019 2:37 pm

    Quoting Bob691969:
    Ex-GF - Your description on each says it all...

    But since the relationship dilemma seems to be more that you seem to know what you want but are here asking strangers... there's something you haven't accepted about yourself being with her.

    Just take the plunge and enjoy the present for a while. Get used to who you both are as a couple before you worry if she's the 'One'.
Grazie, Bob


usafdisabledvet 62M  
86 posts
3/18/2019 12:37 pm

ex's are bridges that are best burned once you cross them. Going back just created more heart aches. Time for you to turn into a butterfly and fly away to something better.



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