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dragonfly_spirit 42F  
1067 posts
2/27/2019 9:46 am

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3/18/2019 12:07 pm

To all the bloggers on alt

The other day I made a post about an asshole. I had reached out to him honestly and authentically trying to figure out what was up with him. Since I've been on alt like 6 or 7 years ibe seen him post in the past. He use to post poetry I like to read and when he posted music in the past it was always just one post. To me this current behavior seems off for him. I even asked him if he felt seen and heard. Because his behavior clearly reflects that he does not. Clearly. And at I am working on this with my parents it's no surprise to see it in someone around me. Lofe is a mirror. Maybe my 1 year break from alt has left him a different person. Idk. But what I do know is he clearly took offense. As I watch the current post list I find it interesting that there are calls to report him and I've refused. More calls to report. And even someone appearing to want to bully him. This I refuse to participate in at any level.

Why do I write this post. If you watch it's real cute and interesting the effort he must be putting into this. Watch my post. As soon as it drops off the front page he stops posting for a while. It's interesting that ibe effected him so much. Clearly something I did or said (honesty often has a way of triggering people) triggered him and now he is acting like a child. I truly wish him much happiness and hope his anger can be released in a healthy way one day. Yes his posting is childish and annoying bit he must have some things he needs to work through. Sending love and peace to him and all of blog land. So sorry blog land I think we are in for more of the same as you watch this post move off the blog home page to the point that you have to click the view all... I just counted..... my last post exactly dropped off .... he stopped.... to even though I'm not doing this crazy 20 time song post.... perhaps hes lashing out at me... and for that to all of you I'm sorry..... have a great day and relax.


dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


JaslineNeeds 56T  
26 posts
3/18/2019 5:51 am

"it's real cute and interesting the effort he must be putting into this" Nope it's neither cute nor interesting. Copy paste of songs and band photos doesn't require much IQ and just clutters up blogs and the blog lists. I personally find it irritating to have to trawl past the countless Vlad blogs in the lists as well as individual blogs. And calling anything that Vlad posts a "blog" is an insult to blogs; they are spam and nothing else. I don't know Vlad and consequently don't know his problems, but spamming the life out of the blogs is not going to help him. It may attract as much sympathy as it disdain and may give him the attention he so desires. But tolerance simply perpetuates his issues. And seemingly from this blog any well meant intervention is also failing.

And do you really think this helps make the site look good to newcomers? And finally, other than anti/pro Vlad blogs his spamming will not encourage people to blog, knowing their work is lost in a sea of spam.


Exhibitibi 51M/35F  
3988 posts
3/16/2019 12:09 pm

The problem is that other people in kink don't understand me. I bump into that a lot on other sites and at munches and clubs and stuff.

I used to be very tolerant towards Vlad but there came a point that Troy just said 'The next time he crosses the line, stop feeding him - because he's getting a kick from trolling'.

So I did. There is clearly something off. I have seen incisive observations and thoughts from him in the past and enjoyed those, but now it's trolling manifesting itself as a power trip. If there were a genuine problem, then he would have the choice of speaking about it or keeping quiet about it. Keeping quiet doesn't involve burdening everyone else with detritus.

There are plenty of people here who really *do* understand others and their problems, ranging from poor health through to broken hearts, mid-life crises, despair, depression and bankruptcy. He knows that, really. He's choosing the actions he's taking, so either there's no underlying problem that he wants to address or he is choosing not to address it.

Thank you for the insight. I hope that you're not seen as a trigger. That's just the burden being projected onto you without consent. In the meantime, I just view the constant spam as Vlad's attempt to have a unique kink.

This may all sound uncaring. I'm not uncaring. I'm just not prepared to indulge in the misery he's serving up in the ALT canteen if he doesn't want to share any good reason for it. It helps nobody - including him.

Lilli
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usafdisabledvet 62M  
86 posts
3/14/2019 1:31 pm

so far he has only invaded my blog once, easy to solve. Deleted his comment and block him from my blog. I can understand the gold thing just not really interested in is and don't really care what gold I accumulate. We are all on our own journey in life and have our own problems to deal with. To each their own. But did enjoy viewing your blog. A woman with a lot of insight. Hope your journey brings you many rewards.

Peace Out


mockyloks 103M
607 posts
3/9/2019 10:10 pm

No he has been doing this attention crap for along time now since your hiatus, not only in blogland but over the entire site itself. Many have voiced concern, disgust, anger and every other adjective that applies. If a friend conducts behavior that is offensive and against the community as a whole. Behaviour you wouldn't approve of or condone yourself, by default you empower him to continue. I've been here just as long if not longer, like you i have them come and go here. What he is trying to accomplish here has gone on for far too long and brought the entire blogosphere down with himself. This used to be a very vibrant and community oriented blog platform as you well remember like i do. Welcome back and i do hope your words do make change in him for the positive.

Mocky

Somebody else's words, exploited and plagiarized to promote my unimportant personal viewpoints.


ProfessorRetired 70M
18 posts
3/6/2019 8:25 am

"we each make the world our own hell."

From what I can glean, hell is where you are sent to be eternally alone with your cravings. Sometimes this life seems just that. Maybe one day I'll wake up from the dream and have my cravings fed. And other thing about life, we are quintessentially creatures of hope.


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 10:40 pm

    Quoting TheBargee:
    i"ll let you into a little secret; that picture isn't me! I had hoped to use a pic of a silverback gorilla as my profile pic but alt barred it! This one is of a perfectly innocent French lumberjack in the act of carving a model of the Eiffel Tower!

    I guess I should be banned from Alt for such a deception!

    Good to have you back here. Alt needs more of the good folks.


Now that you mention it I think you told me that before. Because I remember thinking at first it was a mail box.... hahahaha.... so clearly still digging the photo! Hahaha...... hugs!
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dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


TheBargee 63M  
15118 posts
2/27/2019 2:39 pm

    Quoting dragonfly_spirit:
    Awwww thank you beautiful.... I do try.... but not everyone is meant to receive my medicine and I'm ok with that..... just want people to have happy fullfilling lives. As an empath I feel all their shit when they arent. And I've not had the easiest life. So if I can see someone... hear someone..... hug someone..... and they feel better I'm totally willing. Just part of my purpose...

    Hugs and love to you! Still love that profile pic... not sure why.
i"ll let you into a little secret; that picture isn't me! I had hoped to use a pic of a silverback gorilla as my profile pic but alt barred it! This one is of a perfectly innocent French lumberjack in the act of carving a model of the Eiffel Tower!

I guess I should be banned from Alt for such a deception!

Good to have you back here. Alt needs more of the good folks.


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 1:34 pm

    Quoting ProfessorRetired:
    The internet is a seed bed for off the cuff remarks and behaviors. Civility is largely lacking, let alone manners and pondering the effect your interaction will cause. If anything in this era is surreal, it's the internet. And I suppose when you come to a site such as ALT, it is like leaving dog poop out in the yard during the summer. It draws flies. And flies eat shit and bother people.

    That said, as a male, I think there many more mannerly people online than there are of the ilk you have illustrated or referred to. Dust off your sandals and move along.
Oh hun I'm all good. Nothing to dust off here. I just dont like the bull shit. So I did a post. Which sadly can draw more bull shit or more understanding. Depends on all one chooses to read the post. Thanks for stopping by!

dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 1:32 pm

    Quoting rosaenaluin:
    Ah, i think vlad is one of the minor hickups, from this site.
    And to be honest, some of his choice in music brings back sweet memories.
    I dont like the mob mentality.
    He might be a pain in the you know what, but he is not foul mouthing the other sexe, like some pieces of shite do, on a regular basis!
    I do believe something is bothering him...
    be nice! be decent!
Yes it's nice to see music you've enjoyed pop up.... and have even complimented him and thanked him but I was also honest that it's too much posting that was as honestly it's just disrespectful to the rest of the bloggers. But with that said I'll not participate in bad group behavior. I'll be honest and state what I see and I'll do it after I've tried to understand the situation. And he even DID foul mouth me after I was honest. If I recall he mentioned bitch this and bitch that..... so he does tak bad about women. Dont get me wrong I'm not offended. I've been called worse names by better people. I also saw where he was botching about fake bitches.... so he does get foul. But we all do when we are coming from a place of pain. Hurt people hurt people.... so I keep that in mind. There are times I can be unkind. Yes clearly something is bothering him. Good that there are people like you trying to understand. I did as well.... but when he got nasty..... I blocked. Thanks for your input!

dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


ProfessorRetired 70M
18 posts
2/27/2019 1:20 pm

I just realized who you were referring to. I didn't get ignorant with him, I simply blocked him from commenting further on my blog.


dragonfly_spirit replies on 2/27/2019 1:35 pm:
Yip I just blocked... but sadly it doesnt make me stop seeing all the song posts!

ProfessorRetired 70M
18 posts
2/27/2019 1:17 pm

The internet is a seed bed for off the cuff remarks and behaviors. Civility is largely lacking, let alone manners and pondering the effect your interaction will cause. If anything in this era is surreal, it's the internet. And I suppose when you come to a site such as ALT, it is like leaving dog poop out in the yard during the summer. It draws flies. And flies eat shit and bother people.

That said, as a male, I think there many more mannerly people online than there are of the ilk you have illustrated or referred to. Dust off your sandals and move along.


rosaenaluin 60F  
2760 posts
2/27/2019 12:59 pm

Ah, i think vlad is one of the minor hickups, from this site.
And to be honest, some of his choice in music brings back sweet memories.
I dont like the mob mentality.
He might be a pain in the you know what, but he is not foul mouthing the other sexe, like some pieces of shite do, on a regular basis!
I do believe something is bothering him...
be nice! be decent!


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 11:25 am

    Quoting arero:
    Great to see someone who actually thinks and has some compassion instead of focusing on how all those posts affect them and their blog efforts. I suspect Vlad is getting his wish of attention and being talked about. I doubt he will keep this up forever so I think we can afford to be charitable toward him.

    The only sensible solution I have seen to stop him was a wishful thinking that alt could limit the number of posts from each blogger in a day.
They use to stop shit like this I believe.... but I could be wrong. But seedings how people are saying that he gets a fold membership for it I'm guessing that's no longer the case. But no need to harass or bully someone acting like a child.... as a child doesnt care if it's good attention or bad attention just so that they get attention. And I guess hes getting some payoff or he wouldn't continue. It's got to take a lot of time. So he has to be motivated in some way.... just not sure exactly what it is other then a cry to be seenyheard or that free gold membership people are speaking of..... but really I'm not for sure. I just know it's so disrespectful to all of us and responding in anger just makes him a bigger ass.... but shrugs.... we are all at different parts of our journey and each phase for each person needs to be honored as that. So thank you for this comment. I will hold space so that he may see or feel whatever it is hes needing!

dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


arero 62M
1115 posts
2/27/2019 11:09 am

Great to see someone who actually thinks and has some compassion instead of focusing on how all those posts affect them and their blog efforts. I suspect Vlad is getting his wish of attention and being talked about. I doubt he will keep this up forever so I think we can afford to be charitable toward him.

The only sensible solution I have seen to stop him was a wishful thinking that alt could limit the number of posts from each blogger in a day.


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 11:03 am

    Quoting TheBargee:
    I admire your compassion and your generosity of spirit. It may be too much to hope that such a fine example will rub off where it needs to most but I commend your generosity.


Awwww thank you beautiful.... I do try.... but not everyone is meant to receive my medicine and I'm ok with that..... just want people to have happy fullfilling lives. As an empath I feel all their shit when they arent. And I've not had the easiest life. So if I can see someone... hear someone..... hug someone..... and they feel better I'm totally willing. Just part of my purpose...

Hugs and love to you! Still love that profile pic... not sure why.

dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


brandygirasol 49T  
3892 posts
2/27/2019 10:57 am

Well Girl I manage to BEAT the system myself get under the radar so to speak they must think I'm a CHICK because I always get FREE GOLD too!!!!


dragonfly_spirit replies on 2/27/2019 11:05 am:
Well now honey I think around here your either hated or a great commodity and I ain't sayin either is right..... you totally should get free memberships why the fuck not!

TheBargee 63M  
15118 posts
2/27/2019 10:54 am

I admire your compassion and your generosity of spirit. It may be too much to hope that such a fine example will rub off where it needs to most but I commend your generosity.


brandygirasol 49T  
3892 posts
2/27/2019 10:35 am

TRUE But the GUYS have a tougher to get GOLD i think you will agree ... believe me I'm not trying to endorse Vlad's latest campaign of LUNACY


dragonfly_spirit replies on 2/27/2019 10:49 am:
I agree 100% I may have had an easier time. I was only back like 24 hours and they are like here.... I think in the past men got nothing girls got gold. I mean apparently pussy sells... and now its vip for puppies and fold for cocks. I'm actually surprised they give it to the guys at all.... which is a double standard and a crock of shit

dragonfly_spirit replies on 2/27/2019 10:50 am:
Sorry for the typos

virtualcuzi 47T
190 posts
2/27/2019 10:35 am

Vlad isn't the elephant in the room.

Imagine my surprise when I found out that my opinion actually mattered!


dragonfly_spirit replies on 2/27/2019 10:47 am:
Hahahha.... not in this room.... as he is blocked although I believe it's possible he has fake profiles.... but then who am I to say for sure .... humans are interesting!

Gottin_Himmel 64F  
985 posts
2/27/2019 10:21 am

I hear what you're saying. People do whatever they have to for points. I only object when the practice is abused.

Keep on being the sweet thing that you are. <3

No reuse of posts & pics is permitted under copyright law.

Life is a series of fresh starts if you do it right.


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 10:09 am

    Quoting brandygirasol:
    Well the last time Vlad went off the deep end I was all alone around here trying to stick up for him against the ANGRY MOB ... Finally he came to his senses- but I'm not saying I had anything to do with it ... So I try to cut him some slack believing that sometimes he does this to generate ACTIVITY in order to get FREE GOLD membership
I get it but honestly this is an adult play ground and I'm not consenting to that type of play. Other though I wont attack or bully him I'm setting boundaries with compassion from afar. And no matter the response I'll be honest. Thanks for the further explanation. All i did was come back post about 10 pics which got likes and comments and i got free vip memebership. One doesnt have to be an ass to get a free membership.

dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .


brandygirasol 49T  
3892 posts
2/27/2019 10:01 am

Well the last time Vlad went off the deep end I was all alone around here trying to stick up for him against the ANGRY MOB ... Finally he came to his senses- but I'm not saying I had anything to do with it ... So I try to cut him some slack believing that sometimes he does this to generate ACTIVITY in order to get FREE GOLD membership


dragonfly_spirit 42F  
6632 posts
2/27/2019 9:49 am

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dragonfly_spirit
We are each our own devil and we make this world our own hell. . . .



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